They Followed Different Paths…

Whatever is tru…

Whatever is true, whatever is honest, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is kind, if there is any virtue, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on these things.
(Philippians 4:8,)

Fix your thoughts: “The mind is everything, what you think you become”- Buddah.

Even across various religions we are taught the same lesson. To change your circumstances you must change your thoughts. Start thinking of your self as victorious, successful, happy and watch how your life turns around. Think it. Believe it. and watch as God opens opportunities for you to achieve it . 🙂

Confessions of a Woman Who Settled

*Stands in front of a support group*

Confession: My name is Mimi and am an Ex- Woman Who Settled

“hi Mimi”

I have dated every type of man imaginable from the:

• Liar/Cheater
• Physical & emotional Abuser
• Cry-baby
• Momma’s boy
• Insecure crazy type
• Marine psycho killer
• Wanna-be player
• No Ambition/goals
•  & Druggie

Just to name a few. Clearly my standards were not set as high as they should have been. At one point I had amazing standards, but of course no one came close to what I visualized and predicted to be my dream man. One guy friend even told me,

“Either you need to lower your standards or your just never going to have someone who will give you the love and attention you need.”

EXCUSE ME.SAY WHAT? After vocalizing my opinion with him in language that was far from polite, I came to the conclusion that I was turning into the woman who settled.

The Woman Who Settles- In Mimi’s Dictionary this is defined as a woman who is willing to put up with least than what she deserves to gain attention/affection from someone of the opposite sex.

Where does this come from? Many would say insecurities and I must say I agree to some extent. In the past I was the most insecure little thing out there. I would eat up compliments and fall for anything as long as they ‘seemed nice’. Well that was a destructive journey of heartache and abuse. My soul was beyond weak, but it finally came a time when I had to say enough is enough.

I looked in the mirror and started seeing myself as a woman of POWER. A woman created to be more than average, destined to be a conqueror. I have royal blood in my veins and each and every morning I rise for the purpose of greatness.

Clearly these less than perfect men weren’t meant to be a part of my destiny in the long run, but they did teach me a thing or two about what I will and will not tolerate. Each and every one of them were lessons learned. I now am more aware of warning signs when it comes to the crazy type. I’m no psychic, but from nurturing my mind body and soul again my intuition has been helping me along the way.

I’ve come across some nice guys, but again I refuse to settle. So until the man comes a long who can grow with me, encourage me, and has goals vision and spirituality, just to name a few. I’m content with waiting and enjoying my own company.

After all who knows me more than me? I think i’m pretty bad ass…;)

When you go thr…

When you go through tough times, don’t be surprised if the enemy whispers in your ear, “You’ll never be as happy as you used to be. You’ve seen your best days. This setback is the end of you.” No, let that go in one ear and out the other. God is saying to you, “After the bad break, after the disappointment, after the pain, there is still a full life.” – Joel Olsteen

Feeling encouraged today. Felt like no wind was blowing in my direction for a while, until I started changing my thoughts and believing that my boat would soon move again. That’s when God blew the wind in my direction and now I’m sailing in open waters again. 🙂 Stay encouraged people.

Heatless Semi-Blowout

Thanks to Naptural85.

I Used:

• Shea Moisture
• Olive oil & coconut oil
• Wide tooth comb
• Bobby Pins

I Essentially picked out an old twist out. I didn’t pick it out too much because I usually don’t like to comb through my hair when it’s not wet to prevent excess tugging and pull on my hair.  My hair is not the same length as hers clearly so it didn’t take as long to do as long hair might.

“Everything tel…

“Everything tells me that I am about to make a wrong decision, but making mistakes is just part of life. What does the world want of me? Does it want me to take no risks, to go back to where I came from because I didn’t have the courage to say “yes” to life?” – Paulo Coelho Eleven Minutes

Believing in Signs

When I first came back home I was still dealing with anxiety that was almost paralyzing. Things I once loved I had no interest in anymore. Even little things which never scared me before, left me feeling anxious, as though my heart was about to beat right out of my chest. The night before I asked God for a sign to help me through my difficult time. Something that would tell me everything was going to be OKAY. It wasn’t until I went on a long walk in the forest that I started feeling a great calmness. Before I was dreading the fact that I wasn’t taking classes for the semester and felt like a failure, but when I was there all past things didn’t seem to matter. For the first time in a long time I felt like I was exactly where I needed to be. Although I didn’t understand it at the time, nature recharged my spirit and God calmed my nerves with all the beauty around me.

When I started walking more I came across this pack of yellow butterflies with black spots on their wings. Even as I walked closer they still wouldn’t seem to move. One butterfly in particular seemed to follow me around for a little bit. They were so beautiful and it made me realize that at one time they were a caterpillar that eventually departed from the world for a brief time to evolve into something greater- a butterfly. I don’t know the science behind the change, but I do know they go through a phase inside of cocoon of great pressure and eventually break the shell and emerge as this beautiful creature. Not to say it wasn’t just as beautiful before.

The next day while driving, I came across what I started to call my butterfly. He seemed to pop up when good things were happening. Every time I saw this butterfly I would smile and it made me feel like everything was going to be okay. I was stopped at a red light one day and felt very anxious and  out of no where he would appear, flying across my windshield and my anxiety would go away. I felt like I was going through a phase of change and evolution myself and still am. That the universe was transforming me into something greater. I was beginning to be more open to change, because before I was very stubborn and closed minded.

Weeks went by and my butterfly would be everywhere I was. My anxiety was at an all time low, and my stress levels were low as well. I was starting to feel more comfortable being home and even was blessed with an opportunity to Intern with a new company in D.C. My best friend and I were finally reconnecting as well. When I was starting to feel better, I realized I wasn’t seeing my butterfly as much. I was feeling sad for some reason until I went to my best friends house. His mother had butterfly decorations and little figurines on the wall, and that’s where I saw a large statue figure that resembled the same spotted butterfly that I claimed to be my little God sent buddy.

My best friend was bringing me out of my rut and getting me back to enjoying the little things again. I realized that once I reconnected with him and be more open, I was starting to feel like myself again. It was as if I didn’t need what I considered ‘my little buddy.’ As strange as it sounds, I feel like God was placing my best friend back into my life, and placing challenges along my way to strengthen my character.  Seeing the butterfly figure on the wall, made me feel like I really am where I’m supposed to be at this very moment. As cliche as it sounds everything really does happen for a reason. God has his funny way of bringing people back into your life and testing you. So although I’m not where I want to be, I thank God I’m not where I was before. Back to living, loving, and enjoying the little things…:)

“The simple things are also the most extraordinary things, and only the wise can see them.” –Paulo Coelho

 

Camping Adventures

This past weekend my best friend turned date and I went camping. When i say camping, I mean full out in the woods with the bugs and elements Ha ha. we were at nature’s doorstep cooking by the fire and roasting chocolate covered marsh mellows (which I came up with). I never thought I’d get a chance to go camping, but he asked if I’d go and to my surprise I said yes. Talk about being wild and free, we had many laughs not to mention we witnessed some of the weirdest spiders you could imagine. For once I didn’t freak out. I felt secure outside and was anxiety free for the first time in a while. I must say that fresh air and a new adventure felt amazing and it was a blessing to experience it w. People you care about.♥

Warrior of the Light

“A Warrior of the Light makes Decisions. His soul is as free as the clouds in the sky, but he is committed to his dream. On his  freely chosen path, he often has to get up earlier than he would like, speak to people from whom he learns nothing, make certain sacrifices. His friends say : ” You’re not free.”  The warrior is free. But he knows an open oven bakes no bread.” –  Paulo Coelho 

Adventures at the Harbor

The other day my best friend and I decided to take a break from work and our internships to be outside and explore. For once there was no traffic on 95 so we hit the freeway planning to drive until we hit water. We drove until we hit the national harbor in Maryland.

It was beautiful to say the least. We watched the yachts come and go and young families excited to play in the sand with their kids. It felt good to take a break from the stresses of life and go with the flow. My good friend and I had been through a lot since we had been apart. It felt amazing to reconnect and share crazy stories about our college adventures and misfortunes. Despite it all we still have smiles and love to show. We’ve all fallen. The good thing is we decided not to stay down . Instead we chose to do whatever possible to get back up and keep moving.

It felt good to be open without the fear of being judged. Fear went away and all that remained was laughs, good times and many more memories to create.

          Peace signs make it alright 😉

Beautiful scenary. God is good.God is nature. God is love.

Defeating giants and watching yachts.

    🙂